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A Reflection: New Year–New Plan

February 24, 2012

Wow! What changes a year brings,  it’s remarkable! You know, it’s funny. To some, a year is simply time in itself–twelve months, fifty-two weeks, three hundred sixty-five days, all lived in fast forward.  But to me, these last twelve months, fifty-two weeks, three hundred sixty-five days have been truly life-changing.     This time last year, I was a junior in high school who was focused on my family, my friends, and, to be honest, like every other teenage girl, getting a date to my Junior Banquet. While all of those things are fine and great, this past year has really forced me to focus on other things, like being serious and realistic about my future. I have found that the decisions I was making then are far different from the ones I am making now. (more…)

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Letter to My Daughter (2040)

February 24, 2012

by Julia Clark

“In my daughter’s eyes I can see the future, a reflection of who I am and what will be. Though she’ll grow and someday leave, maybe raise a family. When I’m gone I hope you see how happy she made me, for I’ll be there in my daughter’s eyes.”

-Martina McBride

What a joy it has been all of these years to watch you grow and mature into the woman you are today. From the moment you came into this world, I made a promise to myself that I would raise you right and instill wisdom into every fiber of your being in hopes of your future success. But now, as you are about to enter the next stage of your life, I feel that I have not yet completed my job until I have given you a few more pieces of advice. As you often do, I pray that you listen to what I tell you and take it to heart, just as I did many years ago when my mother spoke these words to me. (more…)

Success …by M. Kelly

January 22, 2011

What is the purpose of our life? Where do we find true meaning as we walk through our life? Ever since I found out my grandfather has stage four cancer, these are the questions that have been plaguing my mind. In the blink of an eye our lives can be threatened by death and we must face whether we have gained true success. Once again we are faced with another question… What is true success? As I have milled over these questions, one word has repeatedly come back to mind : Love.

So many times our society looks at success in life as how much money you attain, what position of authority you hold in your job, how nice your house is, or what kind of car you drive. But how many times does someone recognize success by the amount of love a person has?  As I thought about death and the difficulties life presents, I  realized true success comes from loving others.  Dictionary.com defines love as “a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person or an affectionate concern for the well-being of another.” By this definition we see that life becomes so much bigger than ourselves, it becomes a mission to serve others.

This idea was brought to life in an even greater way as I was reading Tale of Two Cities for my English class. At the end of the book one character chooses to give his life for another. At the end of this dramatic scene, he essentially says that the act of giving up his life gave his life true meaning. When I hit this passage I was so convicted! Society tells us to put ourselves first to gain success, yet here was a situation where success and a sense of true accomplishment came from dying.  You have to lose your life to gain success? At first the whole situation seemed like an oxymoron, but upon deeper reflection I realized that this sacrifice of death was the truest form of love. The real success of true love was shining clearer and clearer in my eyes.

So as I have walked through these last weeks, love has been my focus. Not what I could gain from others, but what I could give to them. It has not been about the huge steps I could take or the big efforts, but the small consistent acts of kindness that encourage others.  The wonderful thing is that through this journey and realization I have gained true joy — joy that goes beyond myself to an active joy that affects others around me. Therefore, now as I contemplate those same initial questions, I find my definition of true success is loving others to the fullest, and experiencing the joy that comes from that.

To My Son: Cautions Before War …M. Kelly

January 22, 2011

My Dear Boy,
As this new phase of life dawns upon us, I fear that I have not adequately covered the things on which a mother ought to instruct her son. The journey you are about to embark on as you go off to war is unlike anything I ever dreamed you would encounter. What you are doing for your country is of the highest honor and loyalty. I am so thankful that your good character has led you to make this decision. I know your father would be proud to see you defending those that cannot defend themselves. His greatest desire was that you would grow to be a man that always took the higher road.

This leads me to the main point of this letter. As you go off to war, I pray that you will keep on the higher road. As I have expressed, your decision to go to war is an excellent decision on that higher road. Do not let upright choices vanish in the midst of your intense situation. The higher road will not always be the easiest road. Other opportunities and pathways will many times seem easier, but you must not compromise what you know to be right.

At the age of eighteen, you will have friends that will try to distract you from what you know to be right. Do not buckle to these influences. Your generation has so much potential just waiting to bloom, but too many times you and your friends do not even realize how your little choices distract you from achieving your potential. Take guard against perverse language, inappropriate content of conversation, and disgruntled spirits. Although these things seem small and insignificant in the physical fight that ensues you, if they are not guarded against, they will ruin your reputation and your life before you blink. It is important to choose friends that encourage you to do right. You will encounter many people that seem well-liked but would quickly take you away from the right.

The most important protection against straying from the higher path is your own determination. If you lack this and do not commit in your heart to staying on the higher road, you will quickly stray. Since you were a child you have desired to do right. Your spirit was so crushed when you thought you had disappointed me. You fought to be a strong, yet quiet example to those around you in order to honor authority. This decision of fighting for your country proves to me once again that this is still your goal in life. Do not lose this!

Each day you are gone, you will not be far from my mind. I will continuously be thinking of you and the joy you bring to my life. Thank you for not only honoring me with you life decisions, but living a life that reflects the character of your father. I am so proud to call you my son. Keep on the higher road.

Your Loving Mother

Growing up …C. Quirion

January 22, 2011

Young children strive towards it while adults run away from it. The looming idea of getting older is always present in people’s minds. But when does one transition from being excited about the future to dreading every passing year?

As a child, I always looked up to my older sister and mimicked everything she did. In some ways, I feel like this almost harmed me. Instead of going outside and playing with my friends, I spent my time doing my hair or attempting to put on make-up in order to make myself look older. I always dreamed about growing up and how exciting it would be to get out and enjoy my life.

But here I sit, in my senior year of high school, reminiscing about the past and I desperately long to go back. I want to be able to depend on my parents to make all my decisions for me and to not have any worries in the world. I miss the foolish innocence and ever-present joy that comes from being a child. People always tell me that I have my whole life ahead of me, and even though I know this is true, I can’t help but want to go back in time and relive my past.

Although it may seem somewhat premature, I feel that my transition has already begun to take place. I am excited for the years to come but I also am realizing that I will never be able to get my childhood back. With this in mind I have set up a sufficient goal for myself. I plan on not spending my time living in the past or worrying about the future, but taking each day as it comes and making the most of it. I challenge you to do the same.

First Time Brother

January 22, 2010

"welcome home, Bro"

Most kids grow up with siblings. I, however, was one of life’s rarities that grew up alone. Now, I don’t mean alone in the sense that I was an orphan, or a pariah. But, I had no siblings in my home to grow up and experience life with. No I am not a real “only child,” I do have two older brothers who are both nearly 20 years my senior.  (C. Casullo) (more…)

The End of an Era

January 22, 2010

Every child hears from his or her parents about a thousand times while he is growing up that “time goes by too fast.” My two personal favorites are, “it seems like just yesterday that you were in diapers” and “one day when you have kids you will understand.”  (K. Goodrich)  (more…)